WHAT'S THE
DIFFERENCE
BETWEEN WINNERS AND LOSERS?
By Gene Levine - www.genelevine.com
Author's Note:
The more I work, the more I learn; and the more I learn, the more I discover how much more there is to know! If you listen to some people, they say I know nothing – perhaps, they're right. I'll let you be the judge.
Whatever words I write, and as general as they might sound from time to time, they only refer to, and are solely about, all the people, places and things that make up the companies I serve.
Many magazines and publishers afforded me the opportunity to interface my viewpoints with you, the reader, to whom I owe so much. I hope that my words truly communicate my intended ideas. And if you take any of my remarks personally, ask yourself. . . "Why?"
What do winners and losers have to do with industry, and, even more specifically, with your job? Well, if you get your job done with and through others, you already know people differ. You call your best people "winners," and the others . . . "losers." Of course, your boss and/or peers might call you one of those names, too.
So let's talk about winners and losers.
To me, winners and losers are like people and trees. To understand the relationship we must simply, but significantly, amplify the difference between a human being and all other forms of life. For instance . . . when a seed first emerges from the soil and begins its long growth from seedling to tree, it always grows into the type of tree from which it originated. A pine tree will always be a pine tree, an oak will be an oak and so on. No so with human beings. At any time in our lives, we, as people, can change what we will be. Unlike any other form of life, we can change our environment to fit our needs rather than having to conform to what already exists. In other words, we can win at anything we choose once we make up our minds.
Why then are there losers? Why is it that some humans never understand that they control their own destinies? Why is it that so many people put the blame of their failure on others? Why is it that 95% of the world's population never achieve their potential? How do you account for the differences between those who "make it" and those who "bomb out" in any effort in life?
In the book, Born To Win, Muriel James and Dorothy Jongeward, the authors, shed some light on the answer. ". . . When we refer to a person as a winner, we do not mean one who beats the other guy by winning over him and making him lose. To us, a winner is one who responds authentically by being credible, trustworthy, responsive and genuine, both as an individual and as a member of society. A loser is one who fails to respond authentically."
In Shakespeare's Hamlet (I, iii), there is found an appropriate definition of authenticity: ". . . This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night follows day, thou canst not then be false to any man."
Losers are not true to themselves. They play the game of "if only." If only I worked somewhere else . . . If only I had a different boss . . . If only the people that worked for me were intelligent, or really wanted to work . . . If only I had gone to college, or, if only I had finished high school . . . If only I had a different spouse who understood me . . . If only I had gotten some "breaks."
Losers should read the provocative book, Reality Therapy, for just that one excellent paragraph where author William Glasser, M.D. says . . .
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